Elaine,deeply moved,touches his hand. "Oh, Roger, do you really feal that way?"

"What way?" says Roger.

"Thaat way about time," Elaine says.

"Oh," says Roger."Yes."

Elaine gazes deeply into his eyse, causing him to become very nervous about what she might say next, especially if it involves a horse. At last she says, "Thank you, Roger."

"Thank you," he responds.

Then he takes her home, and she lies on her bed, a conflicted soul weeping until dawn, whereas when Roger gets back to his place, He opens a bag of chips, turns on the TV and immediately becomes deeply involved in a rerun of a tennis match between two Czech players he never heaed of. A tiny voice in his mind tells him that something major was going on back there in the car, but he figures it's better not to think about it.

The next day Elaine will call her closes friend, and they will talk for six straight hours. In painstaking detail they will analyze everything she said and everything he said. They will continue to discuss this subject for weeks, never reaching any definite conclusions but never getting bored with it either.

Meanwhile, Roger, playing racpuetball one day with a friend of his and Elaine's, will pause just before serving and ask,"Norm, did Elaine ever own a horse?"

We're not talking about different wavelengths here. We're takling about different planets in completely different solar systems. Elaine cannot communicate meaningfully with Roger because the sum total of his thinking about relationships is Huh?"

He has a guy brain, basically an analytical, problem-solving organ. It's not comfortable with nebulous concepts such as love, need and trust. If the guy brain has to form an opinion about another person, it prefers to base it on facts, such as his or her earned-run average at baseball.

Women have trouble accepting this, They are convinced that guys must spend a certain amount of tine thinking about the relationship. How could a guy see another human being day after day, night afternight, and not be thinking about the relationship? This is what women figure.

They are wrong. A guy in a relationship is like an ant standing on top of a truck tire. The ant is aware that something large is there, but he cannot even dimly comprehend what it is. And if the truck starts moving and the tire starts to roll, the ant will sense that something important is happening, but right up until he rolls around to the bottom and is squashed, the only thought in his tiny brain will be Huh?

Thus the No.1 tip for women to remember is never assume the guy understands that you and he have a relationship. You have to plant the idea in his brain by constantly making subtle referencesto it, such as:

·"Roger, would you mind passing me the suger, inasmuch as we have a relationship?"

·"Wake up, Roger! There's a prowler in the den and we have a relationship! You and I do, I mean."

·"Good news, Roger! The doctor says we're going to have our fourth child--another indication that we have a relationship!"

·"Roger, inasmuch as this plane is crashing and we have only a minute to live, I want you to know that we've had a wonderful 53 years of marriage together, which clearly constitutes a relationship."

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